Your Coach for Difficult Conversations... in a Box!
Just follow the steps to resolve conflicts, once and for all.
Thrive Decks takes you through a proven and extremely effective system based in Nonviolent Communication that bypasses all the common communication traps that doom most difficult conversations. It guides you step-by-step toward creating solutions together, so you can finally put an end to every issue and complaint in your relationships.
0. Prep & Invitation
Before talking, internally transform criticism, complaints, and issues into an opportunity for connection.
1. Understanding
Have a slow, calm, and guided conversation where your needs are deeply heard and understood.
2. Reconciliation
Talk about more painful events between you in a connecting way that leads to healing and moving forward.
3. Agreements
Once you understand each other's core needs, the agreement process creates strategies that meet them.
Each action card has detailed instructions on the back and a QR code that takes you to coaching videos about that step:
Be heard and understood
The Mutual Understanding and Agreements deck guides you through everyday conflicts, complaints, issues, arguments, and difficult topics.
The process promotes connection, empathy, and being deeply heard and understood, and then guides you to create plans you both can agree to, so things change and the topic actually gets resolved.
You each get a set of cards that structure your conversation. They help you practice new conflict resolution skills, slow down, share and listen without judgment, accurately reflect what’s being communicated, understand underlying feelings and needs, and collaboratively craft effective agreements that you’ll both want to follow through with.
Start by reading the overview instructions and watching the intro coaching videos to have a clear understanding of the process.
You’re having conversations to meet needs. Identifying and knowing each other’s needs is critical to meeting them! You each get a set of three Feelings and Needs reference cards to help you empathically connect with each other emotionally and understand the underlying needs you both are trying to meet to make your life or relationship more enjoyable.
The most productive conversations start with the intention to improve your relationships, with an idea of what needs you are both trying to meet, and a request to have conversation in an inviting way so that the person we want to talk to doesn’t go into a reaction before we even start! The prep cards and accompanying PDF worksheets guide you to transform complaints and issues into topics for conversation that are more connecting.
Conversations go more smoothly when there is a Sender bringing up the topic and a Receiver listening. The Sender and the Receiver get a different set of mutual understanding cards and follow their instructions until the Sender feels satisfied that the Receiver fully understands what they are sharing about that topic. Even if the Receiver doesn’t agree, they will really get where you are coming from and what’s important to you.
Once the Sender feels satisfied that they are understood, they may want to go deeper. In the core deck, there is the opportunity to switch sides and hear what’s coming up for the Receiver and there are more options in the included expansion deck.
Now that you understand each other, you can co-create a strategy to meet the needs you both have. The agreement cards and accompanying PDF worksheets take you through a brainstorming session to make agreements that both of you can get behind.
The relationship assessment helps you find things you appreciate and opportunities for conversations. The appreciation log and sharing formula helps you share in a profound way. The topic and prep log keep track of what you want to talk about and help you prepare. The agreement log keeps track of all your agreements and action steps.
Recover from hurt between you
Once you are confident with the core deck, the Reconciliation and Healing expansion deck introduces more powerful cards to handle topics that have led to pain or division between you.
You each get a set of additional conversation cards to guide you through working through those more difficult topics. You’ll also find strategies to navigate reactions and interrupt for connection during the conversation.
And there are cards to help you connect more deeply with yourself and those you find yourself in conflict with, with topics like Forgiving Our Coping Mechanisms, Practicing With Triggers, and Recovering From Judgement.
Start by reading the overview instructions and watching the intro coaching videos to have a clear understanding of the process.
Sometimes we want to have conversations to process the hurt we have about someone’s actions. These additional cards can help you navigate talking about this in a positive way that is beneficial for your relationship.
Things come up during more challenging conversations like reactions, wanting to say “no” to an important request, and hearing painful words. These cards go between you during these conversations and can be used by either the Sender or Receiver at any time to pause the conversation and handle what’s coming up for you, while still caring for each other.
When one of you has painful or heightened emotions come while prepping for or having a difficult conversation, the Connection Exercise cards give you practical actions to move forward. There are cards to help you find empathy when you are judging yourself or another, help when you are struggling with an important decision, help you overcome triggers, and much more.
Bond strengthening for COUPLES
The Couples Connection log and bonus coaching videos guide you in the most important activities couples require to continually strengthen their bond. You get worksheets and training to improve your quality time, to create intentional bonding rituals, to understand how you both make and respond to bids to exit arguments (so you stop fights sooner and remember to use the cards), and to schedule the things you need to do to make sure your relationship thrives.
Learn to talk about and recover from conflict, complaints, issues, fights, arguments, disagreements, painful situations, old hurt, and other difficult topics... with all the people in your life.
30 Conversation Cards:
Prep for conversations, have connecting conversations, and create agreements to make relationships thrive.
9 Pausing For Connection Cards:
Manage emotions and challenges that come up during conversations.
11 Connection Exercise Cards:
Self-connect, deal with triggers and difficult emotions, find empathy for others, and much more.
Need Extra Help?
Some conversations are harder and need support. We're here to help you thrive.
Community (Included)
Q&A, Practice Partners, Demos
Join the private Facebook group to ask questions and seek practice partners.
Group Support Programs
Group Practice With Coaching
We will soon offer a support group
program several coaching calls a week.
One-on-one Support
Individual Support At Every Step
A network of trained people can help you with empathy, prep, conversations, and agreements.
Here’s Everything You’re Getting With
Your
Thrive Decks For Only $154 $77.00 USD
50
Coaching Cards
50+
Coaching Videos
8
PDF Worksheets
1
Private Community
Thrive Decks Core Deck and Expansion Deck:
MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING AND AGREEMENTS CORE COACHING DECK
INCLUDED
24 cards to guide you through everyday conflict, issues, complaints, disagreements, arguments, and fights to reconnect you and resolve it, so you get your needs met.
SHIPPED
PRICE: $77
RECONCILIATION AND HEALING EXPANSION COACHING DECK
INCLUDED
26 cards to guides you through understanding, healing, and moving forward around more challenging topics where one or both of you have found the other’s actions painful.
SHIPPED
PRICE: $77 FREE
"Conflict to Thriving" Video Coaching Series:
MUTUAL UNDERSTANDING
AND AGREEMENTS VIDEO COURSE
INCLUDED
Video coaching course on how to navigate everyday conflict, with a video for each action card in the deck.
INSTANT ACCESS
FREE
RECONCILIATION AND HEALING VIDEO COURSE
INCLUDED
Video coaching course on navigating more challenging topics, with a video for each action card in the deck.
INSTANT ACCESS
FREE
Plus Four Sets of Worksheets:
WHEEL OF LIFE ASSESSMENTS
BONUS #1
Find topics to talk about to strategically keep making your life better over time, and see your improvements!
INSTANT ACCESS
FREE
APPRECIATION LOG & FORMULA
BONUS #2
Keep track of what you appreciate about the people in your life, and share in a way that really connects at the heart.
INSTANT ACCESS
FREE
OPPORTUNITY LOG
BONUS #3
Prep for conversations and move past any judgments or critical energy so it is easier to connect and talk.
INSTANT ACCESS
FREE
AGREEMENT LOG
BONUS #4
Document all your main, supporting, and restoring agreements and action plans so you’re on the same page.
INSTANT ACCESS
FREE
Plus Free Gift For Couples:
CONNECTION CALENDAR & VIDEO
BONUS #5
Ensure that you do the things most needed each week to keep your relationship improving and thriving.
INSTANT ACCESS
FREE
QUALITY TIME PLANNER & VIDEO
BONUS #6
Plan out a variety of ways to keep having fun and enjoyable time together where you’re bonding.
INSTANT ACCESS
FREE
CONNECTION BID DISCOVERY & VIDEO
BONUS #7
Identify and log ways that you both can use to reconnect when you get into arguments and fights.
INSTANT ACCESS
FREE
CONNECTION RITUALS & VIDEO
Discover lots of little ways to continually show your love and care for each other, in ways you both appreciate.
INSTANT ACCESS
FREE
Plus Ongoing Support:
PRIVATE FACEBOOK SUPPORT GROUP
BONUS #9
Join the new Conflict To Harmony group to find practice partners, empathy buddies, and to ask us questions.
INSTANT ACCESS
FREE
ONGOING DEMOS
We’ll continually create videos to roll-play how to have conversations with scenarios brought by the community.
COMING SOON
FREE
LOGBOOKS UPGRADE: ADD ALL 4 FOR $140 +$97 USD
You can optionally replace the PDFs with FOUR spiral-bound logbooks to keep all of your discussion topics, agreements, and everything else organized and easily accessible.
2
Prep Logbooks
1
Agreement Logbook
1
Couples Logbook
TWO PREP LOGBOOKS
You get TWO prep logs. These 131-page logbooks help you start conversations in a way that make it easy for the other person to participate.
INCLUDES:
- 3 Wheel of Life Assessments (One for every 3 months)
- 26 weeks of Appreciation logs
- 26 Opportunity (topic) logs (2 pages each)
- Detailed instructions for each section
SHIPPED
LOGBOOK UPGRADE
ONE AGREEMENT LOGBOOK
You get one shared agreement log to go with your agreement cards. This 99-page logbook keeps track of all your agreements, with anyone.
INCLUDES:
- 46 Agreement logs (2 pages each)
- Detailed instructions for making agreements
SHIPPED
LOGBOOK UPGRADE
ONE COUPLE CONNECTION LOGBOOK
You get one couple logbook. This 119-page logbook keeps track of your connection work, quality time plans, connection bids, and connection rituals.
INCLUDES:
- 12 month Connection calendar
- 52 week Quality Time planner
- 4 pages to log your Connection Bids
- 32 pages to plan rituals as a couple and as a family
SHIPPED
LOGBOOK UPGRADE
About Your Coach
John Reel
Certified Relationship Coach, Certified Radical Marriage(tm) Coach,
Candidate to be a certified Nonviolent Communication trainer.
Learning these skills have saved many of my own relationships, including the one with my partner of 11 years and counting.
Now, I find it incredibly fulfilling to help couples, families, friends, and coworkers to quickly dissolve conflicts, recover from old hurt, and reconnect by using these powerfully effective NVC mediation and relationship coaching techniques.
After nearly two years developing this kit with the help of friends in the NVC community, including my NVC mediation mentor, John Kinyon, I’m thrilled to provide these tools to empower you and others to solve relationship challenges. What an honour! I truly can’t imagine anything I would rather dedicate my life to.
I’m looking forward to meeting you in the community, answering your questions, helping you resolve the conflicts in your life, and empowering you to reach your life and relationship goals!
Start Thriving Now...
Buy the decks today to start changing your relationship to conflict, fights, arguments, and recovering from old and new wounds between you and the people you care about. Begin the process of making your relationships thrive.
You will receive:
- The Mutual Understanding & Agreement Deck
- The Reconciliation & Healing Deck
- 8 Downloadable PDF Worksheets to Print at Home
- Lifetime Access to Over 50 Coaching Videos
- An Invitation to Join Our Community (Rules of conduct apply)
